It is clear from many verses in the Quran that having children is considered a blessing from Allaah..
Hence, Allaah says while recounting some of his blessings upon humankind:
“Allaah has made for you wives of your own kind, and has made for you, from your wives, sons and
grandsons, and has bestowed on you good provision. Do they then believe in false deities and deny
the Favor of Allaah (by not worshipping Allaah Alone).” (Quran 16:72)
Thus, one finds the prophet Zachariah praying to Allaah that He bestow upon him children (Quran
3:38). In addition, having children is something known to be beloved to parents. Thus, Allaah says:
“Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world...” (Quran 18:46)
At the same time, though, every parent must realize that having children is a great responsibility and
trial from Allaah. Allaah has said:
“Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas Allaah—with Him is a great reward (Paradise).”
Allaah also says,
“O you who believe, guard yourselves and your families from the Hell‑fire whose fuel is men and
stones…” (Quran 66:6)
when he said:
“All of you are shepherds and all of you will be asked about your wards... The man is responsible for his household and will be asked about his responsibilities. The wife will be asked about the house of her husband and her responsibilities.”
Islam, therefore, fills the human with appreciation for being blessed with a child while at the same time
realizing that this child is a heavy responsibility. The parents must care for the child and bring the
child up in the best possible manner, trying to protect the child from the Hellfire.
Muslim scholars consider that the rights of children appear long before they are even conceived, via
the selection of a pious and righteous spouse. This is the first step in providing a good household
and environment for the child. Around the time of the child’s birth, there are other important
obligations, such as giving the child a good name and offering an animal sacrifice on the child’s
behalf. Beyond that, the most important rights of the child include:
(1) being maintained and provided for in a healthy manner;
(2) being taught the tenets of the religion;
(3) being treated with compassion and mercy;
(4) being just among multiple siblings; and
(5) having a good example set for them by their parents.
A family also includes siblings and other kinfolk. Islam has certainly not ignored any of the relatives
of an individual. In numerous places in the Quran, Allaah emphasizes the importance of treating one’s
relatives in a good and kindly fashion. Allaah says, for example:
“Worship Allaah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk…” (Quran 4:36)
Allaah also speaks about spending on one’s relatives:
“They ask you (O Muhammad) what they should spend. Say: Whatever you spend of good must be for parents and kindred…” (Quran 2:215)
Allaah also says:
“It is not piety that you turn your faces towards east and (or) west (in prayers); but Al-Taqwa (piety) is
(the quality of) the one who believes in Allaah, the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, the Prophets and
gives his wealth, in spite of love for it, to the kinsfolk…” (Quran 2:177)
The Prophet Muhammad was requested:
“Inform me of a deed that will take me closer to Paradise and distance me from the Hell-fire.” He
replied, “Worship Allaah and do not ascribe any partner to Him, establish the prayer, give the zakat and
keep the ties of kinship.”
Keeping the ties of kinship refers to doing good towards them with one’s speech, actions and wealth.
It includes kind words, visits, charity and generosity. It also includes keeping any harm from coming
to them and doing one’s best to bring happiness to them.
The Muslim must understand that keeping the ties of kinship is an obligation and not simply a
meritorious act. In the Quran, Allaah praises those…
“…who join that which Allaah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they are good to their relatives and do
not sever the bond of kinship), fear their Lord, and dread the terrible reckoning” (Quran 13:21)
The Prophet said:
“The one who cuts off the ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.”
Islam has emphasized every type of familial tie possible. It has provided guidance showing the
importance of the ties with parents, children, spouses and other relatives. It exhorts every Muslim to
fulfill these ties to receive Allaah’s pleasure in return. In addition (although not completely stressed in
this short paper), it has provided laws and strict regulations that allow the individual to realize how
best to keep the proper ties with all of his or her kith and kin.
 Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim.
 In this sacrifice, called the aqeeqah, meat is distributed to the poor, one’ family, and friends and
 Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim.
 Saheeh Muslim.