How you became a Father part 2

For the women who deliver their babies by cesearan section, there is not lessening of her work. She may still have labored, and then by the qadar of Allaah, it is needed for her to have her burden eased by surgery. Remember, O Men, that Allaah Ta'Alaa, al Haqq, said that the pregnancy is a burden in three places in His Kitaab.

"IT IS HE WHO HAS CREATED YOU FROM A SINGLE PERSON (Adam), AND (then) HE HAS CREATED FROM HIM HIS WIFE [Hawwaa" (Eve)], IN ORDER THAT HE MIGHT ENJOY THE PLEASURE OF LIVING WITH HER. WHEN HE HAD SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH HER, SHE BECAME PREGNANT AND SHE CARRIED IT ABOUT LIGHTLY. THEN WHEN IT BECAME HEAVY, THEY BOTH INVOKED ALLAAH, THEIR LORD (saying): 'IF YOU GIVE US A SAALIH CHILD, WE SHALL INDEED BE AMONG THE GRATEFUL." Al-A'raf, 189.

"AND THOSE OF YOUR WOMEN AS HAVE PASSED THE AGE OF MONTHLY COURSES, FOR THEM THE 'IDDAH (prescribed period), IF YOU HAVE DOUBT (about their periods) IS THREE MONTHS, AND FOR THOSE WHO HAVE NO COURSES. AND FOR THOSE WHO ARE PREGNANT, (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), THEIR 'IDDAH IS UNTIL THEY LAY DOWN THEIR BURDEN; AND WHOSOEVER FEARS ALLAAH AND KEEPS HIS DUTY TO HIM, HE WILL MAKE HIS MATTER EASY FOR HIM." At-Talaq, 4.
"LODGE THEM (the divorced women) WHERE YOU DWELL, ACCORDING TO YOUR MEANS, AND DO NOT HARM THEM SO AS TO STRAITEN THEM (that they be obliged to leave your house). AND IF THEY ARE PREGNANT, THEN SPEND ON THEM TILL THEY LAY DOWN THEIR BURDEN. THEN IF THEY GIVE SUCK TO THE CHILDREN FOR YOU, GIVE THEM THEIR DUE PAYMENT, AND LET EACH OF YOU ACCEPT THE ADVICE OF THE OTHER IN A JUST WAY. BUT IF YOU MAKE DIFFICULTIES FOR ONE ANOTHER, THEN SOME OTHER WOMAN MAY GIVE SUCK FOR HIM (the father of the child)." At-Talaq, 6.

Allaah is al Khaliq, the Creator. He Knows best what He has decreed for His creation to have as their tests, trials, and rewards in this life. He has said that it is a burden, and while it may be a joyful one, that does not diminish the toils that a woman's body undergoes. We do not say this that you feel pity, or that you give thanks that you are not a woman. We say this that you think on the ability of your Lord, and that you have compassion and mercy for the woman who is under your authority, by the words of Allaah. The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy. O Husbands, be merciful to your wives! O Wives, be merciful to your husbands for their ignorance! O Believers, be merciful to each other, and fear the Day when no soul will benefit another, except for what has gone before!

Allaah has taught to His slaves, Believing and otherwise, that which benefits them. A cesearean delivery can benefit the woman and the baby greatly, but make no mistake, it is major abdominal surgery! A woman who has active genital herpes will be delivered of her child by surgery, as the herpes exposure during a vaginal birth infects the entire body of the baby, and the baby frequently dies. In the West, babies that are not in the "head first" position are delivered by c-section also, as it has been deemed safer; babies have become stuck or strangled when delivered vaginally, and the West has ceased to try delivering them naturally. We (the author) do not know what the practice is elsewhere in the world, but the danger of delivering babies who are breech, which is when the baby lies in such a position that one or both feet are the first to emerge from the mother, this is very real. Again, women do die in childbirth. Babies do die in childbirth.

 O Husbands! Show kindness and mercy to your wives, support them, not just with your words, during this time when she, at least, is more conscious of trusting in Allaah and relying upon Him Alone,And in Allaah let those who trust place their trust.

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